Can a hashtag change your life? Maybe. Back in August 2018 I came across the hashtag #curlygirlmethod and it opened my eyes to a whole new way of viewing myself and my hair.
I honestly didn’t know that my hair was curly UNTIL I started reading about the Curly Girl method! I read an article that asked:
-Do you live in fear of humidity, sweating, or any weather or activity?
-Do you have your hair professionally blow-dried and then don’t wash it for a week (and use power or dry shampoo that dulls the hair?)
-Does your hair develop unwanted volume in humid, hot, or wet weather?
-Are you almost always unhappy with the way your hair looks?
-Do you worry about your hair before any big occasion, like a wedding?
-Do you almost always have a halo of frizz around your head?
I answered YES to each question and that is when I realized THAT I HAVE CURLY HAIR.
After some research, I realized that I have always had curly hair, I just never knew how to take care of it. I spent decades brushing, curling, and flat ironing, which distorted my curls and contributed to frizz. I was washing and conditioning too often and with the wrong products, and I was getting my hair cut when it was wet (curly hair should be cut only when it’s dry.) Suddenly I understood why I have never liked my hair.
So I set out on a mission to get to know my hair. I committed to:
-no brushing or combing
-no direct heat (diffusing is ok but direct blow drying, flat/curling irons are a no-no)
-washing my hair once a week
-using only “Curly Girl approved” products (no SLS, no silicone, no sulfates, etc.)
-learning how to wash, condition and dry my hair according to the Curly Girl Method by using a microfiber cloth to squeeze excess water from my hair)
-getting dry haircuts from someone who is trained to cut curly hair
There has been quite a bit of trial and error involved in this process because no two curly girls are alike (heck, there are no two curls on my head that are alike!) While I can read and watch videos about what works for someone else, that same process/product may not work for me or you.
9 months later and I am finally to a place where I like my hair enough to wear it down, instead of wearing it in a ponytail 24/7. After decades of struggling to beat my hair into submission, my hair does what it wants and I’m learning to be ok with that.